Separation anxiety: How to deal with it?

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Does your baby cry every time you go to the bathroom, to the kitchen or anywhere else? Perhaps, he is experiencing that moment in his life called separation anxiety. Read all the information about what it means and how to deal with it in our article.

What is the separation anxiety?

Separation anxiety is a special (but completely normal) phase in your baby’s life.  For the first three months of his life he learned the basics such as how to move his eyes and smile. And he didn’t particularly care who was taking care of him.

In the next three months he discovered the world around him and he learned more about his body, for example how to control his body movements or ho wot control his voice. And he still didn’t mind different people caring for him, feeding him or spending time with him.

But now, welcome to the new phase of his life! Now, he is crying every time you are further than 30 centimeters and he is loudly saying: “I can’t survive without you!”.  To go to the toilet, to the kitchen or to take a shower is now an insurmountable obstacle. He just doesn’t want to be alone or with someone else. He wants only you, his mother.

When can it enter your lives?

It most often happens between 6 and 12 month of age of your baby. But it’s not a rule. Pediatricians also know of  babies who were affected by separation anxiety sooner or later.

The breaking point may occur in a few days. It’s not an exceptional situation that baby is completely normal one week and completely influenced by separation anxiety the week after.

How to deal with the separation anxiety?

Don’t punish yourself because you think it’s your mistake. It’s not! It is just the phase in your baby’s life and it’s completely normal if and when it comes to your lives. However, we know it can complicate your life a lot. That’s why we recommend:

  • First, don’t ignore your baby’s needs! It can be dangerous for his future growth. Ignoring his crying or screaming can cause many traumas, including low self-esteem or an unhealthy amount of uncertainty.
  • Ignore the comments and remarks from friends and family members! There are a lot of claims and myths going around about separation anxiety and not every one of them is true.
  • Comfort your baby when he cries.
  • When it doesn’t help, make a compromise. If you are going to toilet, let the door open (partly), if you’re cooking, use the car seat and put it on kitchen counter etc. Do as much as you can your baby sees you every moment.